Healing From Our Childhood

Childhood is a time when children learn to respect positional authority.They learn about honor, integrity and faith in the living God. Its a time of positive experiences and joys. Parents encouraging the natural curiosity and wonder in all things with their children. Its a time when parents choose to nurture and love their children enough to teach right from wrong in a way that is age appropriate. Discipline is a form of teaching not  punishing. Childhood is a time when boundaries equals security for the developing child. A family that shares meals, stories and bedtime prayers, will always have a significant closeness. This is my ideal childhood. No child is born to hate, criticize, and to be prejudice. This is learned behavior. How sad to know that so many of us as parents, have missed the mark with our children. Most of us feel  deeply that we've failed our children in some important way. In a way, we have. Due to our own dysfunctional upringing, many of us,  had our own childhood blemished. An important question to ask. How do I help myself to heal and furthermore, How do I make sure that I've healed my child.from any of my transgressions. It's been  my experience that you must have some degree of faith. Praying with your childe is so important and the wholesome desire in your heart to change and follow with a heartfelt apology. Recognizing your mistakes and transgression is huge. Sharing with your child your own childhood and how inspite of your upbringing, you  recognize that your parents gave you all they had even though, what they gave, fell short,or wasn't enough. Recognizing that most parents truly intend to love and grow their children to the best of their learned and taught skills However, teaching to forgive and grow as a family,is crucial. Forgiveness is key in all relationships.   By the grace and love of God, we must choose how we want to be remembered. Insuring that each sequential chapter in our life  is growing and stretching us  to be  a wiser person. Children will always watch how we respond and react to things and this is a quality that stays with the a child into adulthood. How we speak and conduct ourselves is duplicated in our children. Kindness is  the purest form of love. Forgiveness is key.